Well, it looks like my plants and I have successfully survived almost 3 whole months of living solo. While many find themselves moving out during university or even to a job in another city shortly thereafter, for those who leave our childhood home later on in life I think the change can still be quite profound (and perhaps even more thoughtful). Let’s take a moment to ponder and chuckle at the 3 things I loved about going solo and 3 things that I’m still learning to love.
+ CALM SOLITUDE: I wasn’t quite so acutely aware of how much noise was around me until I had the chance to live in solitude with nothing but the ambiance of atmospheric sounds and my own thoughts. This switch alone had a notable impact on my mental health. As an introvert with an extroverted career choice, I craved those hours of cocooning in order to recharge because my day job can be draining. I used to take trips out after work just so I can be undisturbed and have moments to myself but now that I’m on my own, being able to truly make my home my nesting place has been a much welcomed luxury.
— MEAL PLANNING: Here’s one I’m still learning to do and had really taken for granted when my Mother made most of the kitchen decisions. I document my food journey over on my other blog CarrotsNChopsticks but in short, let’s just say that I have lost many fresh produce to the lack of good planning. When cooking for one and shopping mostly once a week, being strategic about my meals not only benefited my budget but also made sure I wasn’t freaking out last minute and resorting to ready made foods. With breakfast, lunch and dinner on daily rotation, this is one I certainly haven’t mastered yet.
+ SURROUNDING MYSELF WITH JOY: While I grew up most of my life having my own room, I didn’t have much say in the the colour of my walls, my furniture or larger objects. My parents never indulged in decorations for aesthetic purposes and as a whole, I wasn’t able to make many style choices except the colour of my bedding. The freedom to build my space and fill it with objects and choices that brought me joy gave me a way to expressive my identity that felt fulfilling and joyful. Until I get around to doing an apartment tour, you can see what DIY house projects I’ve been up to in my house vlogs.
— COMPOSTING: Apartment life comes with certain conveniences and other well… new living habits to adopt. While composting it is the norm in a lot of big cities, doing so by going to the back yard of your house versus lugging it down to the basement of an apartment complex are two different things. Eating solo means I don’t necessarily make a ton of compost but the nature of what it is means I still have to take it out frequently.
+ NEW ROUTINES: New environments, new neighbourhoods and a new living style means I get to create new day to day rituals and routines. Things I previously had to do in order to accommodate others in my household now has become much more flexible. As a tinge selfish as it sounds, it’s been incredibly wonderful to only have to plan for myself and having control over the daily details brings down my anxiety dramatically.
— MONEY MONEY MONEY: So paying your own rent in full really bites. Yes it’s an eminent realty of growing up and flying solo but the rental market in the Vancouver lower mainland is staggering. And it’s not just the roof over my head. Suddenly, factoring in everything from a grocery budget to my internet bill means I’m so much more away of where every penny goes. This increased money awareness is by all means a positive thing but certainly one that still takes some practice.
+ SENSE OF SELF: Now with all complaints aside, the most important and fundamental reason for my firm decision to detach from my childhood home is to have the opportunity to be my own individual in a physical, emotional and psychological way. It’s one of the best decisions I have made in life and while my bank account is poorer than it could have been, I am so much richer by investing in myself.